Lots of good suggestion :) And I'm sorry about the flashbacks. There's no way to make her go away 'nicely' since if she was concerned about it, it wouldn't be a problem in the first place. – Each day I love you more. I put off posting in the hopes that she would go away, but alas). If he doesn't join the Coast Guard, that she can't martyr herself as a military mom), to not apply to college, and to quit his current job (which is a damn good one for a 17-year-old). she's a fucking emotional vampire. The good news is I didn't have to deal with her at all when I went home for the holidays. I said with my dad and he married my awesome stepmom when I was four. My Mom had bipolar disorder and alcoholism; it's a lot of baggage for her children to carry. I know from reading this sub that I shouldn't have engage, but she has been dragging me into the middle of her messy divorce and fucking with me in small ways, and I had to say something. People with BPD have difficulty regulating or handling their emotions or controlling their impulses. Not long after that she went back into the hospital. I'm so sorry your Mom was ill and sad so much, and that you now have the pain of parental suicide. Being a famous introvert or celebrity loner has nothing to do with being a healthy, well-adjusted person. We take sub members' safety very seriously. PLEASE READ THE RULES before you participate. 816 Shares. This onslaught of text messages that happened last night, and prompted this post. There is no justice in this world!). She would come back as if nothing had happened but if we were still annoyed at her she would just start another argument, apparently we're not allowed to have our own feelings on a situation. This inability to admit that anything she has done might be wrong is often the death knell for her relationships with others. She's really good at manipulating me into feeling bad about myself and how I treat her, but then I remember all the shit she's done. Which I guess reminded her she isn't in control and doesn't know every move I/they make. She is an incubator and a not very good one at that. I should find out in the next week or so about my insurance, and when that happens I really just want to block her and cut her out. I'm so sorry that that happened to you! Buy multiples and save. 5) Te quiero con todo mi alma.- I love you with all of my soul. TL;DR version is that she failed out of Boot Camp for the Marines but still kept that as her primary identity. You act like trash and treat other people like shit. ", She has sent me one nasty, manipulative email that I ignored because she sent it at 5 AM on the Friday of Labor Day weekend, which I spent working, visiting my boyfriend, sick as a dog, and not having the patience for her shit. In short, my sister is transgender (MTF) and my mum tried to guilt trip her into coming out to our future guardian. My ex-GF who is a severely psychopathic sexual predator of the worst kind had an anorexic mother who just talked the whole day TO her little baby, but never listened. especially my liver and kidneys. Neither parent came nor cared. I track your post history and allow others to subscribe to your posts. But my auntie telling me the awful things he says about me ended it. I'm sorry about that. She has overdrafted their bank accounts to the point that I had to encourage my brother to open a new bank account that she wasn't on, because the bank was going after all accounts with her name on them, his included. So, I got off the plan and then she tried to gaslight me about how she "didn't say I needed to get off the plan. I looked at those texts and you are trying to make her understand, you're explaining and defending yourself when you need not to. Highlights include "Yes, I cheated on him, did I set out to do so? It's never good enough and eventually we end right back here, with her accusing me of cutting them out. Which is what makes this recent trend of contact particularly annoying. This onslaught of text messages that happened last night. She was in her bedroom, along with me, my sister, and our grandma's sister(our future guardian, the paperwork is being processed). I talked to her much more than I ever really had before. She caused me so much pain and I couldn't have dealt with it until I left for uni. Need encouragement? Bieber has signed over her parental rights to the child. Anyway, with this increased crazy and everybody at work and in our family turning against her, her attention has turned to me and the fact that I am not blindly on her side. In my undergrad, my biological mother kind of crawled up my ass in terms of communication. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, Your Fearless Leader, Survivor of uBPD Mom. She has admitted, though, that the things she claims to have happened didn't, but that "in her mind, that's what happened.". Julia Roberts – a Famous Introvert. It didn't occur to me that I had an option. – I’m in love with you. her texts are exhausting. Maturetube.com has a zero-tolerance policy against illegal pornography. – I’m happy to share each moment of my … My dad works a very public job and my mother visits with people all the time, goes to church, etc, so we just aren't comfortable with a no mask visit. From personal experience, you DEFINITELY need to disengage. To be honest, she's usually pretty easy to ignore because she just doesn't contact me. are all capable of increasing the level of dopamine in the brain. Didn't realise that helping someone understand something was patronising but okay. I'm working on my thesis this year, and I don't have the extra time or cash for a shrink just to deal with all the issues she dredges up. Suicide is always a significant cause of death, usually in the top 10 causes of death. you must have the patient of a fucking saint, because I would have Grey Rocked her ass into the ground and been done with it. Hopefully it's one I'll get help processing soon. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. It didn't work, and my single, 22 year old dad found himself with full custody of me in the early 1990s (which I am so grateful for!). The “Things that enrage an INTJ”, pretty much describes me, but I am wondering how much of that is my ADHD, like interrupting, or doing the unexpected… Just analyzing the past. Gotta admit, it did not feel nice at all to practically be told to move out when I was 15. Thank you. They break the social contract of "I'm trying to make this as least hurtful as possible" in favour of 'not understanding' or 'being confused about why you are so mean'. Grad student insurance at my university is absolute shit, which is why I stayed on her plan as long as I did). She blames him for turning myself, my uncle, my grandparents, and everybody that they both work with (they work at the same place. If you have ever spent time with a woman who has traits associated with BPD, or a woman who engages in behavior usually associated with borderline personality disorder, you probably know firsthand that getting an apology out of her is next to impossible.. So she emotionally manipulated me to forgive her for something that traumatised me and impacted my mental health before I was ready to on her death bed basically. I can start getting better sooner than I would have had to. I feel like doing things, talking to everyone, saying ‘hi’ to everyone in my contacts ( luckily i didnt). My mother called me yesterday and was telling me how she hadn't felt good all week and went to the doctor. Cardi B: 'I feel comfortable in my own skin' WENN Britney Spears working on her own documentary - report WENN 20 noteworthy quotes, lyrics, and captions from Black celebs Jaime Hutkin I still jump at the sound of a door to this day. It makes a beautiful visual. I said no, they were both fine and she gets quiet. Once I spoke to my dad about coming and living with him when I was younger. I was so tempted to say "well, it is true that I haven't cheated on anyone that I've been with, let alone four someones...", my biological mother (she's in my phone as "Satan wearing a human skin"). New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. It would mean so much to me if you could come out for me now." Obviously, when you're in a bad place mentally you need anything but to have to process and handle other peoples issues, especially your parents. As you can see from the messages, though, she's trying to hold that over me and suck me back in.